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Anger, Social Change and a Major “Aha”

Gandhi and MLKLast week, an incident involving Rush Limbaugh, Robert Egger, a YouTube video and a small hew and cry led to my blog question asking, “Where, if at all, is the place for anger in social change?”

The responses were so rich – I encourage you to read them in their entirety here.

Several things became clear in that discussion:

  1. The belief that anger comes from fear, from pain, from both. The experience that “suppressing anger can be debilitating,” as Martin indicated in his comment.
  2. The belief that we have the capacity to move beyond that fear and pain, acting in ways that do not give in to the anger.
  3. The desire for a different / more effective way of being with each other. Jeff Mowatt talked about it as a “mandate for acting with compassion.” Kesha talked about “a shifting concern for one’s community over one’s self.” Marcia White talked about our ability to make “choices that create growth and happiness.” Others responded similarly – the wish and the determination that a different way of being become the norm.

Individuals Go Where Systems Lead Them
As I discuss in the opening chapters of The Pollyanna Principles, our assumptions and expectations of “reality” are rooted in thousands of years of culture that tell us that “living joyfully together” is impossible. (You can read those chapters for free online here.)

Our history tells us that we will likely find reasons to do battle – by words or by swords – and that true “peace” (i.e. not just the absence of war) is a pipe dream. Across generations, we then hand down those assumptions about how people can be counted on to act.

  • Assumptions about what we admire and celebrate – the warrior, the savior, the hero, the individual beating the odds
  • Assumptions about winners and losers, about weakness and strength
  • Assumptions about scarcity vs. abundance, about possibility vs. inevitability

All those assumptions, and the expectations that arise from those assumptions – including and especially those related to anger, frustration, fear, pain – are rooted in stories we have told for millennia.

From those assumptions and expectations, we also hand down ways for dealing with the inevitable conflict we assume will come our way.  While we are encouraged to hope for the best (all the dreams you noted in #3 above), our conflict-driven culture gives us systems and tools and approaches for responding when (not if) the worst happens.

As a result, our everyday responses – as individuals, as communities, as nations – are rooted in those thousand-year-old assumptions. How we respond when an Al Qaida attacks. How we respond when a BP floods the gulf with oil.

And yes, how we respond when a blowhard-for-hire calls us lazy idiots.

Social Change?
I confess that my own questions about the place for anger in social change are rooted in all those cultural assumptions as well.  And yet I also know that deep in my questions was my own mind trying to wrap itself around the why’s and how’s.

I know in my bones that every action we take is creating the future. I know in my bones that we can aim our work at proactively creating the world we want vs. living and working in response to what we don’t like about the world.

And yet my experience of the world, as seen through the lens of my culture, simultaneously tells me that social change and anger go hand in hand.

And that’s when it hit me. Re-reading the discussion and then re-reading my own question, I realized that social change is indeed about anger, because social change is about reacting to what we don’t like about the world.  Just look at the words themselves:

Social Change.
Changing the World.

What is change if not reaction – change FROM something?  The words to which we aspire and bring our best work – changing the world – they are a statement of reaction to what we can no longer tolerate.  Social change is a reaction to pain and frustration, to inequity, injustice.  No wonder we see anger as a force for such change!

Talk about an “aha!”

So where does that leave us? It leaves us with infinite choices and infinite possibilities to create the future we want. Our work doesn’t have to be solely about reacting to circumstances – poverty, war, social ills. We can aim at the world we want, the culture we want. We can work to create a world that is humane and joyful and healthy and vibrant.

It is possible, simply because it is not impossible.

As you watch the video below, consider that maybe that’s the answer (I am thinking as I’m typing – always dangerous, the keyboard equivalent of thinking aloud…). Maybe social change IS about anger, frustration, rebellion against the status quo.

And maybe the thing that is more powerful is the thing that moves beyond that anger – work and words that are not about what we are changing FROM but – as the video notes – what we are moving TOWARDS.

Social Aspiration
Social Dreaming
Social Vision
Social Possibility

And wow does that ever raise more questions to explore!

If you are viewing this in your email or a reader that doesn’t show video, this link will take you to the website where you can watch the video. Link to site here.

Human Nature?

My old pupAs I’ve been settling into 6 weeks of writing and thinking and being, this chapter from The Pollyanna Principles has been almost haunting me.  And I’m thinking perhaps the best way to purge it is to share it here and invite conversation, to see just why this thought is following me.

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Our Animal Nature
As we consider the parts of our past that have led to our present, we must also consider the very meat of what makes us human.

Consider the phrase “Human Nature.” Do we invoke that phrase when we are talking glowingly about our brethren? Hardly. We use the phrase to focus on our greed, our fear, our selfishness – all the things we dislike about being members of this species.

In reality, though, virtually every one of the traits we “chalk up to human nature” is not what distinguishes us as humans at all. Those “human nature” traits are those we share with many, if not most or all, of our animal brethren.

Animals other than humans steal, kill, cheat, and deceive. Animals other than humans are greedy, fearful, thinking of their own survival above all else. Animals compete, they are violent.

When animals feel threatened, their immediate choices are either to run away or to fight back. As humans, our culture suggests one of those approaches evidences valor and courage, while the other is evidence of cowardice. But in truth, either of those reactions is one my dog might also show. If threatened, she might run away, or she might bare her teeth. No valor, no cowardice; just being a dog.

That is not “human nature.” That is part of our animal nature.

Neuroscientists have found physiological / chemical sources for many of the reactions we have come to call “human nature.” The rush of adrenaline, the virtually immediate reactions that allow us to respond physically to danger without having to think about it first – those fight-or-flee response mechanisms are part of the physical composition of our species, the organs and chemicals that are our physical being. We do not have to learn that; it is in us from before the time we were born.

Our species’ long history of the survival reactions we call “human nature,” therefore, are not just cultural. They are physiologically and chemically hard-wired into our being from a time before we were even human. That means overriding those physical reactions – aiming at something beyond our fears – requires something special; it requires that we make a concerted effort to use logic, and to exercise free will.

Our Human Nature is Our Potential
If our “negative” traits are not what set us apart as humans, what exactly is our human nature? What do we have that other animals do not?

Our “humanity” is a bundle of traits that combine to create our unique potential. While some other species may exhibit one or more of these behaviors, there is no other species that has all this and then some.

• A sense that we are part of something bigger than just our own selves and our own families / tribes
• The ability to comprehend that each of us is one life among a vast whole of billions of people we cannot see, but whom we acknowledge and understand are there
• The capacity to consciously de-program our instincts and re-program new instincts – free will
• An almost tangible sense of connectedness to something we cannot see or touch
• The ability to imagine things that do not currently exist – to invent, to create something from nothing but our imaginations
• The ability to express all these more ethereal capacities through language, through art, through music, through various means that allow us to transmit to other humans that which one cannot touch / taste / smell / see / hear
• The ability to envision the future, to envision what is possible
• The capacity for self-awareness, to strive for self-betterment. The ability to be conscious that we are conscious!
• The combined capacity for empathy, compassion, logic and reason, imagination – and joy at experiencing any or all of those

The human part of our nature provides a choice beyond fight-or-flee – a choice my dog cannot make. My dog is incapable of facing her attacker and choosing to neither run nor fight back, but to instead engage. Sweet as she is, she cannot appeal to her attacker’s higher faculties, to learn why he is attacking, and to try to find a better way.

That is the human part of our nature. That is what defines our humanity. Our human nature is all about our potential. Through that uniquely human nature, we have the power to create the future of our world.

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So what do you think? What does this make possible? And what will it take to activate all that potential?

You can read the entire first 4 chapters of The Pollyanna Principles here.

Monday Morning Rock Out!

It’s Monday – the start of the week when you will create the future of your community!

Who are we kidding? EVERY week we are creating the future of our community. Every day. Every minute.

That’s because we are creating the future right now, whether we do so consciously or not.

So what future are you creating for your community?

Are you trying to solve problems - addressing what you do NOT like about your community? Or are you aiming at creating the future you DO want?  Are you aiming at eliminating something negative or creating something positive?

Or are you altogether ignoring the future, just trying to get through the pile on your desk?

Look up! Look around you! You don’t have to be whipsawed by circumstances. You don’t have to just focus on what you don’t like about your community.

You can create the future you want for your community, right now.  That future will include eliminating what you don’t want, but it will also include so much more.

It starts by identifying the future you want.  And then going for it with everything you’ve got.

Because we are creating the future right now, whether we do so consciously or not.

(And if you want to get started, the two links above will help you make HUGE leaps forward!)

Have a great Monday, and a great week, all!

Many thanks to Liam Black for sharing this week’s video at Twitter.