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You Are a Person of Influence (Yes, You)

Sometimes life sneaks up on you.  You think you’re just doing one thing, only to find it’s bigger, grander than you ever imagined.  What are matter-of-fact moments to us are huge in the eyes of those watching.

Parents see that all the time. Our kids show us remarkable behaviors, and when we comment on those behaviors they tell us, “I’m just doing what you always did.” We had no idea they were watching so intently.  We had no idea we were influencing anything. We were just doing what needed to be done.

I talk here every once in a while about the Diaper Banks Dimitri and I founded – the first-ever diaper bank here in Tucson, and its sister diaper bank in the Phoenix area. We built the diaper banks for one reason: we saw the need, we knew how to do it, and no one else was doing it.

Tonight we are in Chicago as part of a small group that has been convened for a diaper summit of sorts – 10 diaper banks from around the country, getting together to share opportunities and issues. We had no idea when we arrived that every one of them would greet us as if they already knew us, thanking us for the inspiration we gave them, for the groundwork we laid.  We had no idea we would hear the words, “I feel like I’m meeting a rock star!”

We were just doing what needed to be done.  We had no idea.

Throughout the day, people talked about the overwhelming need for disposable diapers – a must for leaving a child at daycare, a must for an elderly parent, a must for a disabled teenager. They talked about the need for national legislative advocacy, to have diapers included in WIC and in Medicare. They talked about raising awareness of the reality of living in poverty – eliminating stigmas and myths and creating real understanding of what poverty really is, really feels like. And they talked about what it might take to create communities that one day will not need diaper banks.

It is inspiring to realize that this amazing legacy – it’s OUR legacy! An issue, a campaign, a nationwide movement. We had no idea.

People often ask us, “What made you decide to give up 5 years of your life to do this?”  Our answer is always the same.  There was no decision. No thinking feeling human being can see such a need and walk away and do nothing.  We didn’t know it would take 5 years away from our business. We didn’t know we would be in a room with 20 people, each coming to us, one by one, thanking us for the inspiration we gave them.

We had no idea.

Which makes me wonder: What in your life are you not realizing you are influencing? For starters, your family absolutely – but who else is being influenced by what you do, what you say, how you be in the world?

In the 60’s, filled with youth’s unique blend of anger & idealism, we chanted, “The whole world is watching.” In this interconnected world, more and more people really are watching, all the time – more than we could ever imagine. Each and every one of us has no idea the influence our actions may have.

We really are creating the future. Tonight I ran into that face to face, and it startled me, amazed me, overwhelmed me. We are creating the future with every single thing we do.

Fancy that.

Community-Driven Tour 2008

Well, it’s been a month that we have been on the road with the Community-Driven Tour 2008. And we finally have a moment where I can begin to share what an adventure this has been and continues to be!

We are driving right now, heading west on I-90 from Ithaca, NY to Toronto. It is 7:30 – the sky is almost dark. We will likely arrive at our hotel around midnight, as we intend to stop to see Niagara Falls. Life is good.

It has been an amazing journey so far. It is far too much to share all in one post, so I will promise to be better about posting more often. It has not been easy to do so – there has been so much going on, every hour of every day. One thing is for certain, as we schlep our bags and files and computers from hotel to car, from car to hotel – we need Roadies!!!!

We started the trip on September 12. We drove from Tucson to Albuquerque, from Albuquerque to Colorado Springs, from Colorado Springs across the breadth of Kansas to St. Louis, from St. Louis to Grand Rapids, Michigan. We left surrounded by summer monsoon clouds. Four days later, we were surrounded by autumn in the midwest.

From there, it is hard to fathom all we have done, and all that has transpired.

I keynoted the annual Governance conference for the Dorothy Johnson Center for Philanthropy at Grand Valley State University.

We presented a workshop on Governing for What Matters in Danbury, Connecticut, for the Greater Danbury Nonprofit Resource Center and the United Way of Western Connnecticut.

We facilitated a Community Engagement Plan for the United Way’s Stamford, Connecticut office, focused on Family Financial Stability.

We presented workshops titled Building Engaged Support for Your Mission in Kent (CT) and in Millerton, Albany and Ithaca (NY). In Nyack, NY, we presented two workshops – Building Engaged Support for Your Mission and Building an Energized Board.

In every community, we tell audiences that we left Tucson on September 12, and we will be home the last week of November.  And then we tell the assembled group that we are sharing one message as we travel from community to community across the U.S. and Canada, regardless of whether we are teaching governance or sustainability. That message is simple:

Creating visionary change in our communities is not only possible, it is practical and doable.

In the remainder of the workshops and keynotes, we show how practical it is to do that work – whether we are teaching boards to hold themselves accountable for creating visionary community change, or teaching  practical strategies for generating resources by linking arms rather than by competing.

In every community, audiences walk in skeptical. And in every community, they leave inspired, energized, excited to get back to work and begin making a more significant difference in their communities.

We are having a blast!

Add to that blast that it is autumn, and we are traveling in the most beautiful countryside, watching the leaves change. We have been through the most picturesque villages, driven along hours of winding roads filled with old barn after old barn. And we have had the privilege of spending 5 days in Ithaca, NY, where the Finger Lakes meet gorges and waterfalls, and there is something extraordinarily beautiful at every turn.

The highs of the work have been balanced, unfortunately, by the lows of – well – just life. Some of you know that Dimitri has been his dad’s primary caregiver for the past five years, as his dad has become more and more infirmed. Just a few days after we arrived in Connecticut, Papou was hospitalized for the umpteenth time. Only this time, after almost a week, his body just gave out.

It has been difficult for Dimitri, knowing that after all this time, visiting Papou 3 – 4 times a week and often more, accompanying him to doctor’s appointments, advocating on his behalf – it has been hard to know that in Papou’s last hours, Dimitri was not with him.

The rest of Dimitri’s family was there, however. And in the 24 hours before he passed, old friends from far away came to visit as well. Papou left this earth knowing that he was loved.

So it has been a mixed trip, for certain. The work has been incredible, as has the scenery. The ability to spend time with people we love and do not often get to see – oh that has been a treat! And yet it is all bittersweet, as Dimitri feels the absence of his dad, who had become so very very present in all our lives these past few years.

Tonight we are heading into Canada. We will visit with friends, and Dimitri will get to spend Thanksgiving weekend with his family, most of whom live in Toronto. This is where we were supposed to be, for certain – who could have known? We have workshops scheduled in Guelph and London, where we will get to spend time with friends both new and old. And then we are back on the road, to the city of Monroe, just south of Detroit, and the journey continues from there.

That’s it for this post. I promise to share more about the work, the scenery, the visiting with friends and the rest of this incredible journey in the coming days and weeks. With one very glaring, important and saddening exception, this has been a more extraordinary month than even we could have imagined.

For those who have asked what they can do to support Dimitri and his family during this time, he has asked that you make a donation to the Southern Arizona Community Diaper Bank. There was not a week that went by, in Papou’s last years, that Dimitri’s family was not thankful that he could afford the incontinence supplies he needed. In his memory, we ask that you help the Diaper Bank help someone who is not as fortunate.

Interested in following the 2+ month Community-Driven Tour 2008?  Just follow the link!

“Community Organizer” Defined

To the millions of people who work and volunteer in the Community Benefit Sector, who have felt your life’s work disparaged as you watch the political news these past few days, I offer the following definition of “Community Organizing.”

Community Organizing is work done to fix the messes made by those who run our nation’s businesses and governments.

Community Organizing is done by both secular and faith-based groups – places filled with people of wisdom and compassion, who put the needs of others ahead of their own need for material wealth. It is the most noble work anyone can choose to do.

This is the work that makes Dimitri and me proud, every day, that we have dedicated our lives to helping such “community organizers” as homeless shelters, environmental protection groups, youth programs. It makes us proud every day for having founded the first Diaper Bank in the nation, and then founded a second one because the need was so great.

And it makes us realize that if there were ever a time to stop calling the work we do “Nonprofit” and start calling ourselves “Community Benefit Organizations,” that time is now.