You are kind far more often than you are unkind.
When you are unkind, it is usually because you are afraid or in pain. You may be afraid that someone will hurt you, perhaps because you’ve been hurt before. Or afraid that someone will take something from you. You may be afraid for your survival. Or you may be in pain – physical, emotional, spiritual.
When you are not afraid or in pain, you are far, far more often kind than unkind.
And… the same is true for everyone.
Most of the 7 billion people on this planet, just like you, are kind far more often than they are unkind. Most of those 7 billion, just like you, act badly when they are afraid or in pain.
They are not jerks. They are, just like you, all the frailty and all the beauty that is our humanity.
How might your day change if every time you experienced ugly behavior, you wondered what was causing that other person pain, and extended a hand in kindness?
How might your day change if every time you had the choice to assume the best or assume the worst in someone, you chose to assume the best, and extended a hand in kindness?
How might your day change if, in every encounter, you appreciated that other person as someone who is doing the best he can, just as you are doing the best you can – and extended a hand in kindness, to him and to yourself?
The simplest way to change the world is to be the kindness we want to see in others. Because others are just like us, and we are just like them.