Weeds, Stop Signs, and a Good Deep Breath

"Prepare to Stop" SignMorning walk this morning. Grey wet day after last night’s rain. Everything is different from our normal sunny dryness and so I notice things I normally look right past.

A sign catches my eye and I am suddenly laughing out loud.  It says Slow Down.  “Yup, I sure need to do that!”  I think to myself as I notice that even at 6am, my mind is already racing with things to be done today.

I breathe deep. And as we share during our consultant immersion courses, I know that deep breath is my body telling me, “Ok, you can change things right now. What is possible here?”  We do that, have you noticed? When we are in the middle of something difficult or confusing, we take a deep breath as we are about to tackle the next thing. What a great signal that gives us!

With that breath, then, I asked myself, “The sign says slow down. What is possible here?”

From there, each step on my walk opened up a different answer, each one making me smile (some making me laugh out loud, there alone walking up and down my neighborhood streets.  What a sight I must be!)

A yield sign.  Wow, could we ever use that!  Given the conversations about collaboration that have been occurring at SocialEdge.org and at the Institute’s Facebook page, a yield sign might be just the thing as we consider the conditions that will lead to more community-wide cooperation.

A sign said, “Prepare to stop.”  I especially laughed at that one. It’s not enough in our lives to tell us to stop, look around, take that deep breath and consider what’s possible.  For most of us, life is so crazy, we need to prepare to stop - make an appointment to stop!  “I’ll get a massage next week,” or “I’ll try to find some time this weekend to just read the paper…”  Prepare to stop.  I loved that one.

And then I saw it - the clump of weeds growing furiously in the crack between the street and the curb. That clump of weeds might as well have been screaming through a bullhorn!

“I am tenacious. Nothing will stop me. Yeah, it’s asphalt and concrete - but I am growing with such fervor that they have a whole crew of city employees to try to stop weeds like me, growing in the cracks of the street. Hard as they try to whack us down, though, we keep coming back, keep growing.”

Suddenly this blog post wrote itself in my head. When we are aiming at what’s possible, we acknowledge obstacles simply as things we must find our way around.  As my friend and colleague Nancy Iannone told me yesterday, “When I find myself problem-solving, I am just as mired as my clients in all the reasons nothing will work. But the minute I start helping them reach for the vision of what’s possible, everything falls into place.”

If we set ourselves on a course that inspires us, we are those weeds. Nothing can stop us, and everything falls into place.

All we need to do is take a deep breath, slow down, and aim at what is possible.

Photo Credit: San Francisco Municipal Transportation Agency

Monday Morning Rock Out!

Green peace signNormally I slowly weave and tease my way into the video I share for the Monday Morning Rock Out. This week, though, as we watch the future unfold before us in a way we rarely witness, it seems disingenuous to do anything but get right to the point.

Each day, as we watch the news unfold from Iran, we are inspired. We are encouraged. We are frightened for the violence faced by those who are holding themselves accountable for creating not only the future of their country, but in many ways, the future of our whole world.

So this week’s Rock Out is a reminder of the power we have together that we do not have alone. It is a reminder of those who are holding themselves accountable with their very lives. And it is a reminder of the power of art to convey all of that.

I can think of two other Monday Morning Rock Outs that have used this song - one to share the power of the arts to connect us with what is possible, and the other to address the message that is so strong as we watch the news unfold in Iran - the power we have when we all stand together.

And now this one, by Jon Bon Jovi and Iranian superstar Andy Madadian (check out the background about this endeavor here.)

If a song has landed in this spot three times in three different ways - if so many people are using this song to provide the same solid message - then it is a message we must keep in mind as we head out to create the future of our communities this week.

We have power when we stand together, holding ourselves accountable for accomplishing something bigger than ourselves.

What will you hold yourself accountable for this week.  And who will you link arms with today, this very hour, to make sure you can accomplish that?

Make it a great Monday and a great week, all.

Many thanks to Phabiola Herrera (aka @Phabi), a new follower on Twitter, for the heads-up about this video.

Photo credit: The Boston Globe I strongly recommend clicking the link, to see the rest of their breathtaking and powerful images.

Strength-Based Work is Not Enough

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If we want to create a healthy, vibrant, compassionate, resilient future for our communities and our world, strength-based work is not enough.

I know that’s stepping on a lot of toes, but hear me out.

Strength-based / asset-based work is seen in various places.  It is seen in community engagement efforts, to engage folks in solving their own problems.  It is seen in the counterbalance of “Yes, we did a needs assessment because the funder wanted it, but we also did an asset map to assess our strengths.” It is seen in the battle cry to not just look at clients and communities as a pile of needs, but a pile of strengths to address those needs.

All this is good stuff.  Heck, I even included the need for building on our strengths as Pollyanna Principle #5! As Jody Kretzmann of the Asset-Based Community Development Institute says when he speaks about a glass being half empty or half full, “When we consider only needs, we are considering only the useless part of the glass.”

That said, there is a gap that focusing on strengths cannot fill. When we use strengths to solve people’s problems - to help stabilize a homeless family or to eliminate crime from a neighborhood - our best possible outcome is that we will eliminate that problem.

And while yes, we indeed want to solve those problems, when all we do is fix what’s not working, we are limiting our potential. We are failing to reach for what is possible, because what is possible goes beyond just eliminating harmful circumstances. What is possible is - well - everything we can dream of!

We Accomplish What We Hold Ourselves Accountable For
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We are Creating the Future, Right Now, Whether We Do So Consciously or Not

As the first two of the Pollyanna Principles note, creating visionary change in our communities and our world requires that we hold ourselves accountable for aiming at positive, powerful, visionary end results.

And that’s why strength-based work is not enough.  Strength-based work focuses on the means we use - tapping on the strengths every individual and every community has to create its own future.  But strength-based work towards marginal goals will still only take us so far.

The key is in the future we hold ourselves accountable for creating, for an individual client, for a community, for the world.

If we hold ourselves primarily accountable for getting homeless people back on their feet, that is where we will aim our strengths. And that is what we will continue to accomplish, over and over again.

If, however, we hold ourselves primarily accountable for creating an equitable society where not only does homelessness not exist, but everyone has the opportunity to reach for their own highest potential, then that is where we will aim our strengths. And along the way to that end goal, we will indeed get homeless individuals back on their feet.

I cannot guarantee we will achieve the equitable society imaged in the second example.  But I can guarantee that if we do not aim for it, we will absolutely not attain it. We will continue to fight poverty, fight drug use, fight terrorism - fight whatever sadness it is our mission to fight.

Try This
Question 1: Today, for every need you identify (in a client, in your organization, in your community, in your country, in our world), ask this question:

What is the best possible outcome here? For whom?

Question 2: Just by asking that question, what might change about your approach to the work you do?

If you have not already taken the first step in aiming at what is possible - for your clients, your organization, your community AND for yourself - The Pollyanna Principles can take you there.